12 stages of swinging ( setting up your profile on a swinger dating site)

By now, you would hopefully have had about a hundred conversations about the feelings you would have, including jealousy and insecurity around swinging and taking that on.  

This massive increase in communication particularly around such a hot topic will be one of the amazing and unexpected results of your journey.   Now that the truth about fantasy, and fantasy fulfillment is taking place you are now reaping the rewards of a renewed sense of curiosity and excitement about this new shared experience you are having.    Many couples report an increase in the intensity and frequency of their sex lives with greater satisfaction much like their early encounters during courtship.

Creating a profile is a team effort.   You will have to find a site that caters to your style.  I recommend CassanovaConnect, SDC.com, and Kasidie to name a few.   These websites have been around for a while and can cater to all kinds of interests.   

Once you sign up with a website, you need to fill in the information about yourselves.   You will be asked questions to click in terms of your body shape, height, and weight, your sexual interests and your experience levels.     Those things are helpful to the computer algorithms that match you up, but the thing that everyone reads (hopefully) is your biography.     Make your biography INTERESTING!    Tell us about your likes and dislikes, your hobbies, your approach to family and balancing the swinging lifestyle.   Tell us what you are looking for in a friends with benefits relationship or if you are looking for more than that.   Paint us a picture of why we would want to get to know you and also what you are hoping to find on the site.    Be specific about your availability and your quest for the ideal couple or single guy or girl.   Remember that providing a lot of information will help those who are not a great fit, move on, and will show how much  better you are than those who put down the bare minimum. 

Now, the profile biography will only hold interest if there are pictures that are excellent on your profile.   If you are looking to avoid having your face recognizable, consider using artistic silhouete shots, couple shots with you both wearing dark glasses, or possibly profile shots.   It will be helpful on your profile page to have a number of sexy shots in bathing suits or naked but tastefully presented so that the picture, even without your face is beautiful and exciting.     If you are a single guy this is no place to put a dick pick.   Remember, the profile is about seduction and sales, not about shock and awe.   The truth is no one is terribly excited by dick pics.    They turn most women off.  Your pictures could show animals, sporting activities, travel shots, beach shots, glamour shots, boudoir shots.    Don't forget to show pictures of the male in the couple as well.   If you happen to be kind of short or obese it's best not to lie about that.   What you can do is get help finding the right kind of fashion that accentuates your attributes and minimizes your flaws, which we all have.   By the way, it is not uncommon to use old pictures in your profile, but also have current pictures that reflect how you are now.   You don't want to be accused of gaslighting people with ten year old pictures.  It isn't good for anyone.    Lets not diminish the impact of professionally taken pictures.  They are not common and can make ordinary mortals look incredible.   Makeup, posture, lighting, filters, angles background, props, facial expressions, are tools to help you create a profile that makes people notice you and want to read your profile.   Get those amazing pictures done! 

Just remember, you are creating an advertisement for yourselves.  Put yourself in a charming humorous light and make it personal.   Have pictures on your profile that you are proud of.   People will notice you much than others and it will help make you stand out and seen by more people. 

Now when you get a reply, try to reply back as soon as possible.  If you don't see any fit, just thank them for their interest and tell them that you don't feel it is a great fit.  You don't have to say why.    If you have a ton of people responding to you, then you may decide only to respond to those people who have read your profile and have provided you with pictures of themselves.   You will have a lot of fun on the dating site and you can begin to exchange information and experiences and what you really are looking for.    OFten, people will meet up at clubs or bars to have a "meet and greet".   That is the next step...